I’ll be honest. I don’t know much about cars.

I grew up writing code, illustrating self-made comic books and playing music. Somehow, those teenage lessons of changing oil, replacing break pads or inspecting belts for wear never really happened.

Despite my auto-mechanical ignorance, I picked up enough to know that if you’re driving a stick and don’t push the clutch in all of the way, or switch gears just right, you’re going damage your transmission. While automobiles are masterfully crafted and resilient pieces of machinery, they have basic guidelines for usage if they are to work properly.

The same basic concept applies to humans as well.

Christians say that they believe God is love because God exists in three persons: the Father, the Son, and the Holy Spirit. That means that for all of eternity past and future, God has existed in a relationship. The Father loves the Son, the Son loves the Spirit, and so on. Therefore God has always known relationship and always will.

When God first created man, He said, “It’s not good that man is alone.” He created woman, not just for marriage, but for community. God knew that for man to be fully man, he could not be alone. To put it plainly, God designed us for relationships.

We will not find fulfillment or happiness in a life that is constantly in pursuit of promoting me. We were not created unto ourselves, and will not find true life there. This is not to say that there is no value in being self-aware or having a healthy self-esteem, but that it is only a small part of the puzzle.

Give compliments, buy someone lunch, and listen to a friend without waiting for your turn to talk. Go to a kid’s little league game, have a teenager over at your house for dinner with your family, give an elderly person a ride to the store.

Whatever the action, fulfill God’s design for your life and focus on others. When we love God and love people, we have done what He has asked, and we find true life as a result. Just like our car, our lives work better when they’re used the way they were designed.

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